September 2015

Summer is winding down and school is due to start next week. Alexis starts kindergarten next week and it's bittersweet for me. I am ready for the girls to go to school but in saying that I'm not ready to let Alexis go but I know it's time. The reason that I say it's time for the girls to go to school is because they have been irritating each other so much lately & fighting. They are fine when they are separated but it's crazy anymore when they are together. As I look back on this long summer I feel bad because we didn't do anything this summer. We went to a few local events but that is it. The beginning of summer Kelly worked a lot of over time. So we just didn't have the time to do much of anything. Alexis turned 6 in August and we had her birthday on the 15th. We had a nice party & we were extremely happy with the turnout of people that showed up. We didn't even know if we would be able to put on a happy face and have the party due to a huge hit we took to our lives just days earlier.  But we learned something valuable that day -as I remember standing back and taking a breather and watching everyone at the party I was content and happy and feeling a small sense of calm. And that felt good even if it were only for a few hours. It was something we needed to keep our minds busy and just see many of the people we love together and celebrating the day with us.

Let me explain briefly what I'm talking about. Kelly lost his job earlier that week. I don't want to get into the "whys" and "hows" of the subject but I will just say that we did not see it coming and it was a huge hit to us. We went through so many highs and lows in the last 3 weeks that I can't even begin to explain it all. He was at his job for almost 11 years and he was at the top of his game there. I am not saying that to try to sound "big" or "snooty" I am only being honest. Almost anyone who worked there with him will probably tell you the same thing. He was off for a week and found another job with the same type of work just "different colors."  The only reason he was able to get that job so quickly was his qualifications, work history in the business, and a little help from some good people in the business. Just a few days ago he had another job offer that he was thinking of taking. It would have  been more money than his current job and his last job. He would be a boss & have a lot more on his plate. He was to meet with the guy and talk numbers on Sat. but he thought about it and decided not to take it. He wants to stay where he is at and possibly work to become a supervisor. He has only been there a week and already starting next week he gets his own truck and crew and will be a foreman again. He now drives almost an hour to work. So we are having a lot of changes here at our house and it's hard getting adjusted but I'm sure we will over come it all. We never ask anyone for help. We just don't. Kelly and I have always done everything on our own and we have grown accustomed to that. But in saying that I have to put this out there: "Even the strongest of the bunch fall sometimes" & sometimes even the strong ones need support or the simple words of "are you guys okay?" -once in awhile.

Other than the big hit we took a few weeks ago we all are doing okay. Kelly and I will be celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary next week on the 9th. I cannot believe it's been 15 years. I don't know what we will be doing -probably nothing. Our original plan was to get a sitter this weekend and go out to dinner but I don't think we are going to be able to do that, now. 15 years is an accomplishment, a milestone, I guess. We have been through a lot in 15 years and it's so ironic that the "bit hit" came to us just a few weeks shy of our 15th wedding anniversary. But we learned a lot through that hit & we learned how to get through it together. There have been fights, there have been tears, and there has even been laughter but we are getting through it one day at a time: together. 


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We survived the Winter

Well we all made it after hibernating after a very long Winter. The weather has been quite warm the last few days and giving our central air a nice work out. I realize that I haven't written for a while so I figured I'd sit down quick this morning and write some.

Yesterday was Mothers Day and I had a nice one. Although I would love to have a day where I do absolutely nothing all day -I don't think it's ever going to happen, to be honest. Even when I try to sit back and let others do things for me I can't stand it I have to get up and help in some way. Kenny came early and stayed most of the day yesterday & then I got surprise visits from my family. It was a very nice surprise. Later, Kelly, the girls, Kenny, and I went to DQ.

I sat yesterday and reflected back through my life and thought of all the women past and present in my life who helped make me who I am today. I thought of all the women in my life that helped teach me something a long the way. I'm still learning now. I learn new things from people all the time. I tell my kids all the time "you are never too old to stop learning." I ask those of you that are reading this now -look back at all the women past and present in your life that helped shape you into who you are today.

The girls are doing great and we all have been quite busy the last few weekends. We get very busy on the weekends with trying to fit everything in. The girls are still fighting all the time. They fight about everything & anything. It doesn't matter what it is. It's quite frustrating. Alexis has been taking temper tantrums again lately which makes some days quite stressful. Sometimes just leaving the house is a chore for us when she is in one of her moods. I can tell you it's not fun and it makes us all fight and quite stressed.

My middle brother got married a few weeks ago and we are happy to welcome his new wife into our family! About two weeks after the wedding we all got together for a small celebration for them at my sister and brother in law's house. It was nice having everyone together.

We are seriously thinking about getting another Boxer next year. I know, we are probably crazy and I'm still debating to be honest but we are thinking about it. I have reservations because we just got a new living room suit. We shall see.

Anyway I have to cut this short and get myself in gear around the house and I hope to make it out in the sun today. The one last thing I'd like to add is a quote I heard awhile back but I kind of changed it around a bit:

"Instead of spending your time cutting people down, build them up."

And in saying that...wouldn't life be so much easier if everyone would build others up rather than tear them down?  Like I told my girls the other morning:

"You two need to quit tearing each other down, you are sisters, build each other up ...you are going to go out into this world and meet enough people that are mean and want to tear you down the least you can do is be sisters and build each other up so you will always have each other to turn to."

Wouldn't life be so much easier if we had less people stirring the pot for ill intentions but rather stirring the pot for good intentions to make people's lives brighter? Be happy for other people's successes and not envious. And remember if you want someone to be happy for your successes then be happy for other people's. And listen to other people, ask them how they are and remember to be selfless and not selfish. 

Those are my words of wisdom for the day! lol!!

Keep in touch everyone!